WHEN I SAY “PERVERTED PATRIARCHAL MASCULINITY”
Posted by antiintellect on June 10, 2010
A lot of people get bent out of shape when I challenge perverted patriarchal masculinity. They in their own ignorance take this to mean that I am against masculinity and that I am against manhood. Some of the most ardent of this crowd will even go so far as to label me a misadrist.
So let me clear up what I mean when I articulate my disdain of perverted patriarchal masculinity.
At the core of perverted patriarchal masculinity is the belief that one has to act a certain way in order to be a man. I am of the belief that manhood is not an act, not a performance, and not a show. One is a man because they are a man. Essentially manhood is a state of being. You don’t have to jump through any hoops in order to prove your manhood.
Today I read a blog post by a guy who calls himself “The Sexual Intellectual” and his blog was a lesson in perverted patriarchal masculinity.
It’s almost common knowledge these days that men are the new bitches. Some of them have even started to accept the title, by buying loofas, wearing pastel toned colors, getting mani-pedis and numerous, other metro sexual infractions against manhood.
This is a perfect example of what I mean when I say perverted patriarchal masculinity. The notion that a man is being a woman and or lacking in his manhood if he wears pastel colors or gets a manicure/pedicure is a prime example of the perverted patriarchal masculinity that I loathe with every fiber of my being. The notion that ones manhood is somehow tarnished or devalued because one wears pastel colors is just sad.
Perverted patriarchal masculinity is a poison that sours all. Those who perpetuate it and those who are affected by its promotion.
The notion that a man cannot wear make up.
The notion that a man cannot wear skinny jeans.
The notion that a man can only take a shower, no sitting in tubs. (Yes I have heard this)
The notion that a man cannot like ballet, jazz, or lyrical.
The notion that a man cannot carry a handbag.
The notion that a man cannot get his eyebrows groomed.
The notion that a man cannot get his tongue pierced.
The notion that a man cannot get his navel pierced.
The notion that a man cannot consider something cute.
The notion that a man cannot cook, bake, or wash dishes.
The notion that a man cannot be a cosmetologist.
The notion that a man cannot be a cheerleader.
The notion that a man cannot cry.
The notion that a man cannot be vulnerable.
The notion that a man shouldn’t be a virgin or celibate.
The notion that a man shouldn’t have exclusively female friends.
The notion that a man shouldn’t do certain dances.
The notion that a man can’t wear certain shoes.
The notion that a man cannot enjoy certain movies.
The notion that a man cannot go certain places.
The notion that a man can’t do household chores.
These are all notions of perverted patriarchal masculinity that I loathe, that I detest, that I reject.
I have no issues with masculinity and men being masculine but I passionately reject any notion that perverted patriarchal masculinity is anything other than perverted and should not be looked to or considered some kind of acceptable masculine ideal. Its rooted in ignorance, misogyny, and rigidity and I can’t get behind that.
If your manhood depends on you constantly jumping through hoops to prove it pure and legitimate then you might need to reevaluate your views on manhood.