THE REAL REASON WHY SOMEONE WOULD BE PROUD TO BE MASCULINE..
In our patriarchal society thats rooted in sexism, racism, and homophobia people are always clinging to be seen as legitimate. Black gay men have the double burden of not being seen as legitimate based on their racial identity and also not being seen as legitimate based on their sexual orientation.
Now the role that masculinity plays in this equation is that most men falsely associate masculinity with legitimacy. In a sexist society where men are seen as superior and women are seen as inferior most men want to be associated with characteristics and traits that are seen as legitimately male by other men. The reason being who wants to be seen as being woman like because women in their eyes are inferior.
This is why expressions like:
“You play like a girl”
“Don’t act like a girl”
“Man you a girl”
Can be thrown around as insults used to deny legitimacy to other men.
The association here is that girl = weak = inferior = illegitimate
Despite women having bigger brains, sharper senses, and longer life spans we associate them with inferiority. Of course we do in our sexist patriarchal society.
So a Black gay man who already is seen lacking legitimacy because of his race he has to pull his trump card and most black gay men have been conditioned to believe that it’s their masculinity that is going to secure them the legitimacy they are so desperately seeking.
Hey everyone look at me I am masculine! Is the message that they are sending and a pat on the back is what they are looking for.
It’s my belief that people should proud of themselves period. One should not have to resort to lording their so called masculinity over other people in order to make themselves feel good. Nor should they denigrate and demean others for not meeting their random masculinity requirements.
I have no problem embracing my masculinity and my femininity. I think it’s only healthy that we accept our duality as human beings instead of shunning one in favor of the other.