HOMOPHOBIC HETEROSEXUALS VS HOMOPHOBIC HOMOSEXUALS
I’ve begun to realize that the biggest threat I face on a daily basis isn’t homophobic heterosexuals, as I can generally handle them very easily.
It’s the homophobic homosexuals that cause me the consternation. The ones who have internalized the dominant cultures hatred of them and made it their own.
The ones who think they are gay because they didn’t have a father growing up.
The ones who think they are gay because someone molested them.
The ones who think that homosexuality is a lifestyle choice.
The ones who think themselves and other gays are going to hell.
The ones who think so called masculine gays are superior to so called feminine gays.
The ones who think that being ashamed of who they are is a badge of honor.
The ones who think that having sex is what makes you gay.
The ones who think that you can grow out of your sexual orientation and flip a switch and be heterosexual.
The ones who think gay men are to blame for homophobia in society.
The ones who think that heterosexuals are superior to homosexuals.
The ones who have never taken a course on human sexuality but think they know everything there is about sexuality.
Sigh.
Protect me from the self hating homosexuals.
Posted on April 25, 2010, in Internalized Homophobia. Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.
thank you for writing this post. I am currently having a hard time making friends in my new city after 9 months. I know confidence has something to do with it but I can’t help but think the fact that I am a feminine man doesn’t help. I need to find the feminine gay community in my city because I am drowning in loneliness. The sad part is that I know that my low self esteem is directly tied to my being feminine. I am trying to get over my internalized femophobia. I have come very far. I no longer immediately reject the idea of feminine men being desirable. I use to chase after masculine men because I valued them. I have a long way to go but I am glad I am not alone in seeing this problem.
Sad and alone in Dallas but not giving up